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Valentine's Day, Sister's Engagement, 11 years of marriage....reflections!!!
Many people think that Valentine's is a ridiculous holiday, a reminder of what they dont have or what they have lost, a commercialized day that forces us to buy cards and roses for no real reasons except the stores are suddenly painted red and pink with fuzzy animals and hearts....but that is really only the opinion of jaded people.
I always like Valentines when I was younger because we got to hand out cards, eat candy, and have a class party. But I never really got the gushy part of it until I MET JASON....
When Jason and I were first getting to know each other, and friendship was turning into to something more....I would drive over to his work or house and leave him little notes, I would fill cards with cut out hearts, I would write poems and cards for him, and I even bought him a TEDDY BEAR!!!!YUCK!!hehe!
I was falling in love! I was in love! I knew I had someone special in my life to share life with and I had someone that made me want to listen to love songs on the radio, buy him silly cards, and write him love letters!!!!!I was ridiculously madly did I say ridiculously falling for this guy and EVERYDAY WAS LIKE VALENTINES day!!!!
To be completely honest that isnt exactly how marriage is for us.......Our reality is now working hard and long hours, and lavishing on our kids more than one another. It is the season we are in, but I do think that it is important as marriage couples to continue to do those SILLY things that you did in your youth. Make that special person feel RIDICULOUSLY loved.
Love is not a feeling. Love is an action. Love is what love does.
Intimacy and love has to be in constant motion because at rest it is not love, it is indifference.
WE have to be intentional with the special relationship that we have with our spouses.
I think it is important to have Valentine's day to remind us that giving heart cards, and roses and chocolates is not silly not NECESSARY.
And it is more than spending money on some material item...it is the action of showing your love to your spouse that is most important.
Alexis gives us all kisses at night time before she goes to bed. We have this silly little thing....Alexis will be in Jasons arms she will kiss him then me then him again then me again....Jason and I add a little kiss or two to each other as well...she sees it and always laughs. I want my kids to see me love their dad intentionally with a kiss or kind word. I need to improve greatly in this area but it is something that I strive for and I think it is vitally important to our kids to see. I want them to trust marital love and know what it really means....it means kisssing your husband everyday not matter what kind of day you had or they had and no matter if you agreed or disagreed on what to eat for dinner, who should take out the trash,who should change the next diaper, who should correct the homework, who should do the bills, or fill up the gas tank.
I try to maintain some space and privacy with my spouse to sometimes. I think that anyone who is constantly in the presence of another person is bound to SUDDENLY know and see all the faults of the other and get a bit annoyed. I guess that is the premise of why non Christians move in together before they get married because they want to know it the others person little quirks are going to be TOO MUCH or TOO ANNOYING to them and how diiferently they keep a home.
Luckily for me I learned how to keep a home when I got married. No one ever taught me anything about how to run a home....Jason and I stumbled through and we just figured out what works so us....he is a great housekeeper and unfortunately I am not. But we balance each other well.
No matter what household tasks you have to do, how tired to you might find yourself, or whatever...dont forget to fall in love with him/her again everyday.
Remember to DEMONSTRATE love with patience kindness protection trust hope and perserverance and remember we deomonstrate love when we do not hold the other person to their faults but we esteem them because they are our beloved. We all have faults and God doesnt constantly remind us of how far from the mark we are to his standards so dont to that with your spouse (or children).
Remember to ILLUSTRATE love and GIVE love by not acting rude or sharp with your spouse, or getting easily angered or annoyed by little TOTALLY unimportant things.....
Remember to love him like CHRIST loved his church....what does that mean...unconditionally and with a deep understanding that you are willing to sacridice. That is love.
Congrats to Jen and her beau Emmanuel. Marriage is a great adventure and it makes life much more sweet to share it with one person.
Thanks you Jason for being there always for me.
Happy Valentines all you love sick PUPPIES....spoil that special someone tomorrow and dont feel bad about it at all...hehe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Peace Out
Kris
I always like Valentines when I was younger because we got to hand out cards, eat candy, and have a class party. But I never really got the gushy part of it until I MET JASON....
When Jason and I were first getting to know each other, and friendship was turning into to something more....I would drive over to his work or house and leave him little notes, I would fill cards with cut out hearts, I would write poems and cards for him, and I even bought him a TEDDY BEAR!!!!YUCK!!hehe!
I was falling in love! I was in love! I knew I had someone special in my life to share life with and I had someone that made me want to listen to love songs on the radio, buy him silly cards, and write him love letters!!!!!I was ridiculously madly did I say ridiculously falling for this guy and EVERYDAY WAS LIKE VALENTINES day!!!!
To be completely honest that isnt exactly how marriage is for us.......Our reality is now working hard and long hours, and lavishing on our kids more than one another. It is the season we are in, but I do think that it is important as marriage couples to continue to do those SILLY things that you did in your youth. Make that special person feel RIDICULOUSLY loved.
Love is not a feeling. Love is an action. Love is what love does.
Intimacy and love has to be in constant motion because at rest it is not love, it is indifference.
WE have to be intentional with the special relationship that we have with our spouses.
I think it is important to have Valentine's day to remind us that giving heart cards, and roses and chocolates is not silly not NECESSARY.
And it is more than spending money on some material item...it is the action of showing your love to your spouse that is most important.
Alexis gives us all kisses at night time before she goes to bed. We have this silly little thing....Alexis will be in Jasons arms she will kiss him then me then him again then me again....Jason and I add a little kiss or two to each other as well...she sees it and always laughs. I want my kids to see me love their dad intentionally with a kiss or kind word. I need to improve greatly in this area but it is something that I strive for and I think it is vitally important to our kids to see. I want them to trust marital love and know what it really means....it means kisssing your husband everyday not matter what kind of day you had or they had and no matter if you agreed or disagreed on what to eat for dinner, who should take out the trash,who should change the next diaper, who should correct the homework, who should do the bills, or fill up the gas tank.
I try to maintain some space and privacy with my spouse to sometimes. I think that anyone who is constantly in the presence of another person is bound to SUDDENLY know and see all the faults of the other and get a bit annoyed. I guess that is the premise of why non Christians move in together before they get married because they want to know it the others person little quirks are going to be TOO MUCH or TOO ANNOYING to them and how diiferently they keep a home.
Luckily for me I learned how to keep a home when I got married. No one ever taught me anything about how to run a home....Jason and I stumbled through and we just figured out what works so us....he is a great housekeeper and unfortunately I am not. But we balance each other well.
No matter what household tasks you have to do, how tired to you might find yourself, or whatever...dont forget to fall in love with him/her again everyday.
Remember to DEMONSTRATE love with patience kindness protection trust hope and perserverance and remember we deomonstrate love when we do not hold the other person to their faults but we esteem them because they are our beloved. We all have faults and God doesnt constantly remind us of how far from the mark we are to his standards so dont to that with your spouse (or children).
Remember to ILLUSTRATE love and GIVE love by not acting rude or sharp with your spouse, or getting easily angered or annoyed by little TOTALLY unimportant things.....
Remember to love him like CHRIST loved his church....what does that mean...unconditionally and with a deep understanding that you are willing to sacridice. That is love.
Congrats to Jen and her beau Emmanuel. Marriage is a great adventure and it makes life much more sweet to share it with one person.
Thanks you Jason for being there always for me.
Happy Valentines all you love sick PUPPIES....spoil that special someone tomorrow and dont feel bad about it at all...hehe!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Peace Out
Kris
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